About me

My journey in personal growth and self-development began at the young age of 12.

You might be thinking, "That's crazy! You're still a kid at 12," and technically, you're right. However, due to the treatment I faced and the experiences I went through, I wasn't treated like one, and I grew up fast.

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As a result, I struggled with low self-esteem, lack of confidence, self-harm, body dysmorphia, and hormonal challenges. I always had difficulty regulating my emotions, which caused issues in relationships. I found myself loving 'too much', pouring all of the love I had into the wrong people, leaving none left to give to myself. This inevitably ended in trying to fill a big empty void through searching for validation and love in others or trying to fix people and neglecting my own needs.

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The early days of coaching began with a 12-week coaching program that I was referred to when I was 12 called “Street Dreams”. It was like nothing I had ever experienced. I thrived with the support of my coach, Jay Blades MBE (long before his MBE or TV career). I then went on to volunteer at his and his ex-wife Jade Ilke's young people's charity and had the unique opportunity when I became a paid worker at 12 years old. I learned to teach other young disadvantaged, disengaged youths to restore and repair furniture while repairing their mindsets at the same time, working there for 4 years until the charity sadly lost funding. It was a special place, and I learned so much, but I was only 16 and distraught when it closed down. But little did I know I still had my biggest heartbreak to come...

 

I was 19 and naive. I thought I found 'the one'. He and I had saved all of our money and went off backpacking around the world, which created a very intense yet strong bond between us. I put so much love into that person that I forgot how to love myself. How could I possibly expect anyone to love me in the way that I wanted to be loved if I couldn't even do that for myself? Of course, I didn't know that at the time, and after almost 5 years of being practically glued at the hip, it fell apart through COVID, upon our return from traveling. We had to be separated due to the government guidelines and our living arrangements. This had a huge impact on my mental health; communication wasn't working, and I became confused. So, I ended the relationship since at that age, I could not understand the dynamic of being together yet also...alone. That's where it all began to spiral for me...

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The self-sabotage well and truly kicked in. I didn't cope well with being alone because that would force me to have to face my feelings of complete and utter heartache, which presented itself as physical pain for me. I experienced a continuous ache in my stomach; I lost my appetite and dropped 2.5st in 3 months, adopted risky behaviors, putting myself in danger, rebounded with nasty people in the hope that if I could 'fix' them, I might feel better. I was wrong. Let's just say, lessons were learned. I avoided speaking about the breakup and buried my pain in heavy drinking and smoking, which led to blackouts, extreme emotional outbursts, and even trouble with the police.

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The consequences of these actions were my wake-up call. I knew I had to get my act together, but if you have ever felt lost, you'll know that finding the starting point is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Fortunately, I stumbled across a community of like-minded people, and I took a huge risk, invested my only savings into mentorship and coaching. Through my journey of rebuilding myself, I converted any limiting beliefs that were holding me back into empowering beliefs and pushed myself out of my comfort zone where I learned so much about who I really am. I got to know myself as a whole instead of just a half. I can truly say that I got my power back, only this time I felt 100x stronger than ever before. I no longer settle for less. I don't depend on anyone for validation; my fear of not being liked and fitting myself around other peoples' expectations has been eliminated. I accept now that I am me and I am capable, strong, powerful, lovable, and one hell of a cracking gal if I may say so myself!

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I studied hard and became qualified as a life coach internationally accredited by the ICF. My mission is to pull women out of that lost lonely place and help them get to know themselves again, to rebuild fiercely after a breakup and replace that empty void with a feeling of independently being whole. My mission is to transform women's lives using the same tools and techniques that I used, which was through developing the mindset, restoring a sense of self-love and self-respect, manifesting & redesigning the desired lifestyle as a solo independent lady while learning to thrive with or without a partner.

 

Next steps!

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If this resonates with you, I am here to be your break-up bestie, number one supporter, and your biggest fan!

We will work together to restore an irreversible growth mindset, to shift perspectives that are holding you back, break through the self-doubt that is hindering you from letting go and moving on, and restore the self-belief that is necessary in the journey of becoming the version of yourself that you know you are put on this earth to be.

Most importantly, we do not only get results but we embark on this journey together. This is a process of unconditional professional support and commitment from me as your coach. This is what I was put on this earth to do, so if you are done with that heartache, let's talk.

IT'S TIME FOR YOUR GLOW UP!